The Leader's 3-2-1: Three Insights, Two Questions, One Statistic.
Topic: Resilience to Stress Series (Part 2) - Staying Gritty
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Resilience to stress is a collection of mindsets and habits that keep you grounded, gritty and growing-- continuing with staying gritty.
To be gritty is to maintain your passion, perseverance and personal power despite setbacks, challenges, obstacles, failures and slow downs.
At its core, grittiness is less about willpower and more about wellness. Staying the course despite stress requires a charged resilience battery. To protect and promote your overall resilience energy, learn what to limit, what to grit and what to quit.
Stay gritty with a charged resilience battery in 3-2-1:
Three Insights
Know What to Limit
Limits are the boundaries you set that keep you feeling safe, supported and self-assured. Boundaries are the conditions you create, maintain and control – they are not controlling or punitive of other people's behaviors. Signs for boundaries include: tension, frustration, resentment, brain fog, fatigue and exhaustion.
Self-coaching for knowing what to limit:
Notice: What signs for boundaries are present for you?
Reflect: What limits are missing? What shift can you make in conditions?
Act: What is the next right step?
Know What to Grit
To grit is to grind, endure and stick with things past the point of excitement and beyond the point you want to stop. Grit is staying the course and working hard when the easy, but wrong, thing would be to quit. It's getting through the messy middle, staying consistent and seeing the right things through to the end.
Self-coaching for knowing what to grit:
What struggles are moving you towards your vision and values?
What situations are challenging you, but you are proud of your efforts and progress?
Know What to Quit
To quit is to leave behind, stop or accept something as is. Quit is letting of what's not working and moving on when the easy, but wrong, thing would be to grit. Quit is not a dirty word. Not everything is worth continuing and failure to let go of what's not working puts a massive drain on your resilience battery. Part of managing stress well is knowing what you need to discard completely from your to-do list and knowing the wrong things to see through to the end.
Self-coaching for knowing what to quit:
What struggles are not moving you towards your vision and values?
What situations are challenging you, but you are not proud of your efforts and progress?
TWo questions
What are your limits and what are your limitations?
Limits are your max outputs that keep you feeling safe, supported and self-assured. Limitations are your weaknesses and blind spots. To stay gritty, know what doesn't serve you well and what's not within your skillset to serve well.
What will serve your overall resilience energy to accept as is rather than change or grow?
Reflect on a situation challenging you. Is it a growth moment or an acceptance moment? At times, letting go and acceptance is the wisest form of grittiness.
One Statistic
3x “People who lack work-life balance are nearly 3x more likely than their peers to identify as “coasting” or “checked out” at work.” -Workforce Institute at UKG
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